So, I just wanted you all to know I don't think of myself as perfect. I am the first one to admit my faults and imperfections to anyone who will listen. In fact I have a couple odd physical things about me that I usually just laugh about, such as......
Neither one of my ears match. At the top of my right ear the cartilage is closed but the left one is open. I did a dumb thing years ago and decided to pierce my cartilage on my left ear and guess what happened? Yup, it got infected. The earring left a dark spot in my ear, so now it looks like I always have dirt in there. I don't, but I see people staring!
My left nostril is smaller than my right. I believe my left breast got the memo and decided to overcompensate for my faulty parts because its bigger than the right breast, my nose and even my head at times!
I have this loud, crazy, witch cackle of a laugh. Most of my kid's friends say that I am a witch and some of them are scared of me! Muwahahahaha!!!!!
Oh, and I even have one of my rear butt cheeks bigger than the other one. How many of you can say that? Here's how that one happened. When Claire was 2 I fell down the steps while holding her and landed so hard on my ass that I almost passed out. Thank God I managed to make it to the bed to toss Claire to safety. I'm pretty sure it hurt more than childbirth, but because it was the middle of the night I didn't want to wake my husband. I ended up developing this horrible bruise in the shape of Mongolia. I probably should have gone in and had it looked at or better yet drained. Now I have a little bump inside that still hurts and I feel I now have a sort of bubble butt! How nice!
I'm sure by now you are all wondering why in the world is she telling us this?
But the reason I am telling you all of this is because I am concerned for our children these days, especially our daughters. I fear that if we don't look at our "imperfections" as unique little quirks, that make us who we are, then how do we go on teaching our children to be confident with themselves.
Something happened recently that has me wondering what kind of examples some mothers are setting for their girls. My daughter is 6 and in first grade. She recently had a little gal come over for a sleep over. They had a great time playing dress-up, restaurant and mommies! Despite a few hiccups because of strong personalities, they had a lot of fun!
When it got closer to dinner, I gave the girls a couple of options to chose from and they soon decided on pizza. I ordered from one of our favorite places where they have lasagna, salad and yummy bread sticks. As I was preparing the plates for the kiddos, Claire's friend seemed a little hesitant about what she wanted. After I served up Claire, I asked her friend again what I could get for her. She kinda hemmed and hawed then said, "I don't want to eat much because I'm worried about getting fat!"
"WHAT!" I practically screamed. Is this little teeny, petite thing really saying that to me?
Remember, she is 6 people! I practically flipped out, but then realized I wasn't going to get anywhere screaming. I took a deep breath and then got down to kid level. I spoke to both girls because I didn't want her friend to feel singled out. I told them how beautiful they both were. I then told them, that this was not something either one of them should be worrying about, especially at their age. I proceeded to tell them how I wanted them to be happy with themselves on the inside. I kind of felt her friends eyes on me and I said, "yes honey, I know I'm not some skinny mini, but I'm happy with who I am!" The outside appearance is just that and shouldn't be how we determine our happiness. I managed to get the little thing to eat a little of everything and then downed a beer or maybe two because I didn't expect any of that.
I have to tell you that I know her mom and "she" is a skinny mini. In fact she is more like a brunette barbie doll. It's true! That is why this little girl was saying how she didn't want to eat much. I'm sure she's heard her mother say those exact words.
I mean, her mother is a size 2, if that. She has nice perky boobs, a waist the size of my big toe and gorgeous hair. But frankly, there isn't always a lot going on upstairs! It just made me sad to hear this coming from someone so young and even sadder to know that if I approached her mother, I don't think it would do a dam bit of good!
How lucky was I to then turn on the Disney channel and see Selena Gomez's new video come on called "Who Says". She basically sings about "who has the right to say you're not beautiful, or be anything you want to be!" I love it! I love her line where it says, "I'm no beauty queen, I'm just beautiful me!" I explained to the girls what her words were saying and how no one has the right to tell you you can't be anything you want, you are all beautiful! Thank God there is still one normal star on Disney that seems to have her head on straight and that can be a role model for our girls. Kudos to her mother for teaching her morals and believing in herself!
Here is Selena's Video. I hope if you have a young girl you watch it with her because our girls need to believe they are beautiful and special. Turn my music off before playing!
Oh, about my imperfections, those are just a few reasons why I am 1 unique Funky Woman!