Have you ever spent time with a person, whether having a quick cup of coffee or lunch and wondered how you felt at the end of that? Were you more energized or less energized? Were you tired or exhilarated? Well, if you were more tired and just plain drained then you have been poisoned, and if you had more energy than you had before you went, then you have been nourished.
Toxic People are toxic because of their own issues, and their behavior has nothing to do with you. They like to make you feel bad, guilty, and feel like you are at fault. Realize that the issues they are dealing with corrupt them and cannot be fixed by you. If you realize this now you can take back your power.
I have been having a hard time lately dealing with a toxic person in my life. I have been "Friends" with this person for a couple of years and I have started to realize what this person does to my soul. A friend should never drag you down, make you feel angry, worn out, deflated, belittled or confused, but this "friend" does all of these things.
I cannot believe how confident I am as a person, but whenever I get around this so called "friend" I feel like I am back in junior high and she is the leader and I am her peon. After I have been with this person the rest of the day I start to question everything I have done and wonder about the things that were said. Could I have said or done something differently? For cryin' out loud I am a 38 year old woman with 2 kids, a small petting zoo, (lol), and married to a great guy for 17 years, why am I letting someone out there make me feel like I am a 14 year old, with no confidence?
Ironically, it is the 29th of January and yesterday was the first time I had seen this gal since before Christmas. After spending a few hours with her and feeling completely dispirited, I decided I needed to pull a Jackie O and very gracefully remove myself from this relationship. Any ideas on how I do that? I would appreciate some advice from any or all of you because I want more for me in this new year and I know it isn't too late!